My mother used to ask me what is the most important part of the body. Through the years I was attempting to find out the correct answer. When I was young, I thought, sound was very important to us as humans, so I said “My ears.” But Mummy said “No. Many people are deaf. But you keep thinking about it and I will ask you again soon.”
Several years passed and she again asked me the same question. Since I had not answered the question as per Mummy’s expectations I attempted second time to give correct answser. So this time I told her “Mummy, I guess sight is very important to everybody. So it must be our eyes.”
She looked in my eyes and told me “You are learning very fast, but the answer is still not correct again because many people are blind and I was “Stumped again.” However I continued my quest for knowledge over the years. Mother asked me a couple of more times the same question and her answer was always “No.” But used to say “You are getting smarter every year my child.” Then last year, my grandpa died. Everybody was hurt. Everybody was crying. Even my father cried. I remember that especially, because it was only the second time I saw him cry. My Mom looked at me when it was final and last time to bid a goodbye to my Grandpa. She asked me, “Do you know the most important body part yet, my dear?”
I was shocked when she asked me this now. I always thought this was a game between her and me. She saw the confusion on my face and told me “This question is very important. For every answer you gave me in the past, I told you that you were wrong and I have given you the example as to why you were wrong. But today is the day you need to learn this important lesson. She looked down at me as only a mother can. I saw her eyes well up with tears.
She said, “My dear, the most important body part is your shoulder.” In that atmosphere also, I asked, “Is it because it holds up my head?” She replied, “No. It is because it can hold the head of a friend or a loved one, when they are in agony, when they are very desperate and sad. Everybody needs a shoulder to cry on some time in life, my dear. A person wants to vent out his/her sad feelings to someone who would understand him and sense his feelings in way a person experienced it. If a person or a friend of yours chooses your shoulder to cry and vent out his sorrow and agony, then you are doing august service to him and he will not forget you throughout his life.” I only wish that you should offer your shoulder to the near and dears as you can and also the people also should prefer your shoulder to get a relief from the sufferings they had. I also wish that you should always have many shoulders to cry upon when you need it.”
Then and there I knew the most important body part is not a selfish one. It is sympathetic to the pain of others. People would forget what you said….People would forget what you did, but people would NEVER forget how you made them feel. Good friends are like stars…You don’t always see them, but you always know they are there.